Holidays can be difficult for those dealing with grief

The holidays are typically a time of togetherness, family and tradition. But for some, holiday traditions may be a painful reminder of a lost loved one, and that grief can become overwhelming this time of year.

November, which is also National Hospice Month, is an important time of year for those who are grieving, as it marks the beginning of the holiday season. Hospice grief professionals understand how difficult this time of year can be.

Even if you have been living with loss for a quite some time, holiday traditions and gatherings can serve as an annual reminder of a loved one. For those living with grief, there are things that can help you through the holidays.

If it makes you feel more comfortable, continue much-loved family traditions and rituals. They may bring positive, happy memories of loved ones. If continuing family traditions is just too difficult or painful, that's OK, too. New traditions and memories can be created to help lessen the immediacy of the loss. Try to alleviate the stress from holiday gatherings. Ask others to help prepare the meal, or have the holiday gathering at another friend or relative's house. Focus on the things that make you happy. If you're not feeling up to a big party this year, just do what feels right for you. Others will understand.The holidays are a time of special meaning for many people. It might help to be able to give back to your community through volunteer work, donations or other activities. Volunteer at the local food bank, for example, to help ensure that area families have a happier holiday season.Though this time of year can be particularly lonely for those living with loss, it can still be a time of warmth, remembrance and celebration of a life. Do something in remembrance of the person you lost. This will help create new traditions for you and remaining friends and family.If you or someone you care about is having difficulty coping with grief and loss, Bonner Community Hospice is available to help by calling (208) 265-1179. Hospice and palliative care professionals have always recognized the need to provide emotional and spiritual support to those who are grieving — especially during the holiday season.n Nikki Luttmann is a community development specialist at Bonner General Hospital.